Saturday 30 November 2013

November you have been brilliant!

The spell has well and truly broken. This November has been lovely. I will no longer dread this month. I have met up with lots of friends, some I haven't seen for years! I have been to The West Country to see my beautiful children who are both doing well at university.
People have gone out of their way to help me, support me and guide me.
I have learnt new things, had new experiences and been treated to meals out.
Today I have been out on the fields with Ollie. The sun was shining and it was remarkably warm.
What more could I want?

Friday 29 November 2013

the weekend

It isn't too cold for November. I am meeting friends on Saturday and Sunday and am really looking forward to taking Ollie out on a nice long walkies.
happy Friday evening everyone. I am off to read a book!

Thursday 28 November 2013

taking the plunge

I think people get rather beaten down by life and sometimes think there are few or no options open to them. So many people seem unhappy in their job and wish their week away to get to the weekend. I promised myself earlier this year that I was not going to be one of those people. There always are options and choices but sometimes when you are tired and stressed those choices are hard to see.
It is scary making the decision to jump off the merry-go-round not fully knowing what will happen if you do but earlier this year I took my courage in both hands and jumped!
Did I hurt myself?
No
Has the world fallen apart?
No
Did I get rich quick?
No
But what I have done is started to see that there is another way.
People do not need to work for 40 plus years doing a job they would rather not be doing and count down the days until they can retire and then try and live on a tiny pension.
There really is another way.
Doing things differently means you have to learn right from the beginning again. many of the things  you thought you knew has to be re-learnt and you have to approach things with new eyes but this can is fun and not daunting.
The exciting thing is there are people ready and willing to help you to succeed and they are delighted to encourage you and comment on your success.
I have to pinch myself to believe the life that I am living now.
I feel full or energy and ready to face each new challenge! It will take time to reach all my goals but now I know exactly what I want from life and every day I move onwards and upwards!

Wednesday 27 November 2013

phone call

The phone rang and it turned out to be my Gran. She is 94 and living in USA. It was so lovely to speak with her. She is doing so well and it is always so lovely to hear from her.
I think she is amazing. She came to UK from India in her early 20's when she married my Grandad. She made her home here. She has had joys and sorrows in her life and has managed to cope with everything life has dealt her. She has been living with my Aunt for a few years now. It is wonderful being able to visit her and see her so well surrounded by family who care about her.
My Gran would do anything for anyone and I have so many happy memories of visiting her as I grew up. Now I am a parent with grown up children of my own Gran continues to cheer me on from the sidelines always telling me how much she loves me and how proud she is of me.
Gran is a really brilliant example of a nurturer. She knows how to make people feel special.
I just had to devote a blog to Gran as she is a real inspiration to me and so many others!

Tuesday 26 November 2013

Pizza Tuesday

I am off to eat a Bosco Salad at Pizza Express in Ashford this is all paid for by the company I work for. It is so nice to be thanked and appreciated for what you do and relatively rare these days.
Have you ever had Bosco Salad? It is delicious:
Warm garlic mushrooms,
 baby mozzarella,
 avocado, 
roasted tomatoes, 
spinach, 
rocket,
 balsamic syrup, honey & mustard dressing, 
warm dough sticks
how good is that?

:)

Monday 25 November 2013

Old friends

One good thing about Social networking sites is that you can find and then meet up with old friends. I am off to see my friend Kate today. I haven't seen her for years. I expect we will have a lot to talk about as we have both had children and had all kinds of experiences since we last met.

It is easy to lose touch with friends. Life is so busy and everything changes so fast. People move towns, get new jobs, meet new people and gradually lose touch with people that they used to know well.

It is important not to live in the past but it can be great to meet up with people from time to time to see how they are getting on and to swap stories!

Sunday 24 November 2013

Goals

Do any of you set goals for yourself? If so do you write them down and share them with people? There is a school of thought that when you write down/share your goals you commit to them more. I have written down my goals and I must admit as soon as I wrote them down they felt achievable.
The mind lodges all kinds of thoughts, some positive, some negative, some clear and some unclear.
If I leave my thoughts to cycle around in my head it is hard to know exactly what I really do want/desire.
Children don't seem to have this problem. They can usually clearly state what they want from life and they don't seem to have any doubt that they can achieve their goals. As we get older we listen to the opinions of others and their view of us influences our own beliefs consciously or subconsciously. Given time it is hard to know where your belief ends and another's begins.
We are like sponges absorbing all information and feedback people give us even if the feedback may not be accurate or helpful.
In the end I believe it is helpful to stop listening to any and all advice and decide for ourselves what makes us happy and what we would like to achieve in life.
In their natural state humans are generous, optimistic and happy and at times in my life when I haven't felt that way I have realised the need to make positive changes in order to achieve harmony and happiness in my life.

Saturday 23 November 2013

Inspiration

There are things and people to inspire me everywhere. I am so grateful to all the people who take time out of their own lives to show me something that will make me feel better, stronger, more positive. They are everywhere. Sometimes buskers sing just the right song that means something to me at exactly the moment I pass them or I read a book, find a picture, watch a film that helps everything click into place.
Life can be tough but there are signposts everywhere pointing out the right path as long as we keep our eyes open and are receptive to all the things around us that can help us to follow our dreams.
Some of the signals don't come from people. It may be something an animal does or even the weather can inspire. Many a time I have driven along in Harold through heavy rain and then the rain eases the sun breaks through and a rainbow appears. It is hard not to be inspired by events like this.
I try to always see life as an adventure and an opportunity to constantly learn new things and I do learn even from the mistakes I make- especially from the mistakes I make!

Friday 22 November 2013

Exeter and Plymouth

I went to The West Country and while there I went to Plymouth Hoe with Clarrie and Jack. The weather was a bit wild as it was hailing that afternoon but it was beautiful to look at the view. I remember visiting when I was a child. I don't remember having visited Exeter before but I spent yesterday afternoon there. As I walked past the beautiful cathedral I could hear a choir singing a Christmas carol and this really started to ignite the spirit of Christmas in me.
Making the Christmas cake and pudding started my focus  on Christmas a little but walking past that beautiful cathedral and hearing the singing definitely made me feel that Christmas is around the corner and that it can be as pleasant, uplifting and peaceful as we choose it to be.

Sunday 17 November 2013

November

November you have been gentle with me so far. I usually find November a bit of a trial in some ways. I think it has something to do with sad events and anniversaries that have occurred around this time of year in my life and try as I might until recently I used to dread November and sure enough further difficult events appeared at around this time as a kind of self fulfilling prophesy.

This year I feel different, living in the present and even some forward thinking.
My whole outlook to the month is changing.
I took my dog to the fields at the weekend and looking down into the valley everything looked incredibly beautiful.
Late autumn colours are more subtle than the reds and oranges earlier in the season, subtle browns and greys creep in and make everything look softer.
I hope I continue to feel this way about this time of year for years to come.

blogging

I am very new to blogging. This is strange really as people told me years ago that I would enjoy it but somehow I never got around to it. I used to enjoy the Myspace Literature forum and found my creative outlet there until they made the changes that saw an end to the forums.
Since then I have written for myself, kept a journal etc. but have never thought of writing a public blog. I am now increasingly interested in reading other people's blogs. Have any of you got a blog I could follow? If so please let me know!

Saturday 16 November 2013

Don't look back!

When we are very young most of us have firm ideas about what we want to be and have no awareness of perceived barriers or limitations that prevent us from achieving our ambitions.

As we get older we are given advice from a large number of people. Some of that advice is good and some of it is less helpful. It is good to remember that people have their own motivation for saying what they say and may not always have your best interests at heart.
The difficulty for all of us is to know who to believe when people make criticisms about us whether those criticisms are constructive or otherwise. When we are at school a 'throw away ' comment from a teacher can be taken 'as Gospel' if we admire and respect the person concerned.
A teacher may tell you that you are good at Art and bad at PE and this then becomes true for you because if you believe what that teacher says you will also believe yourself to be good at Art and bad at PE and this is then likely to become a self fulfilling prophecy.

I think that we owe it to ourselves to really work out what makes us happy and then work out how we can achieve that happiness more frequently in our lives. If this means that we need to learn a new skill then naturally we can be scared of taking the risk that if we learn a new skill we may not be good at it but if we never take that risk we will never know.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” 
- Henry Ford

This quote is often used so may be seen as 'over-worked' but I think that this is because it is so true. It is a real gem that deserves to be used as often as possible so that everyone can benefit from these wise words.

Friday 15 November 2013

Climbing Mountains

Have you ever been in a situation when someone snaps at you and it ruins your day?

You can feel like that person has it in for you and was purposefully trying to make you feel bad. I saw this happening to someone recently and as I was an outsider looking into the situation I could clearly see the person that snapped was feeling low and was 'climbing their own personal mountain.'
 They had no idea that their words would have such impact on another person as they were preoccupied with their own difficult situation. As I was not personally involved it was easy for me to see what was happening but this incident got me thinking of the occasions when I have felt people had 'got it in for me' or were 'trying to upset me on purpose' and now I am starting to think that maybe that wasn't the case.

We all have our own personal troubles and hurdles to face and at times these hurdles can seem insurmountable and all encompassing. At these times it is easy to feel that we are insignificant and that what we say cannot possibly really affect anyone else and that everyone else has it easier than we do.
 I think if we do manage to find time and energy to step outside of our personal situation for a little time and gain some perspective it is easier to see how much difference our words make to other people.

Tuesday 12 November 2013

I was right about being nice to inanimate objects!

In case I was in any doubt about being nice to inanimate objects and verbally encouraging them to work I have evidence that this is the best course of action:
My printer has been playing up recently and this has been a royal pain. I have patiently fiddled with it, turned it on and off added new cartridges....etc.
In desperation I pleaded with the printer:
" Please work sweet printer," I coaxed.
The printer worked perfectly!
What more can I say?

Monday 11 November 2013

In praise of Harold

I have probably devoted a blog entry to my car before but I am so glad there is nothing wrong with his windscreen wipers that I will devote another blog to praising his reliability and character! Yesterday I thought they were sticking a bit and started to worry about having to have them replaced which apparently can be expensive and a hassle but today they worked beautifully!
 Yes I know he is a car and therefore an inanimate object (unless I am driving!) but I find he runs like a dream and never lets me down despite being around 20 years old and so I tell him daily how great he is. I am off to Chatham now to see some work colleagues. Come on Harold let's go!
Incidentally I sometimes talk to photocopiers. I find they sometimes work better with a little gentle verbal encouragement!
(OK I admit it I am bonkers!)

Saturday 9 November 2013

Dreams

I have just shared a Facebook post. It says: 'If your dreams don't scare you they aren't big enough.
I agree with this.
I think people get so battered down by the 'trials' of life that they almost forget that as a child they used to have dreams.
What did I want to be when I grew up?
What am I doing now?
I think we would all benefit from considering the following:
If what we are doing is making us happy then that is great but if it isn't we could try and take some time to think about what truly makes us happy and what we would really like to be doing with our lives.

While it may be nice to have nice things and be rich but if we dig deeper into our dream stores I bet our real dreams involve being around loved ones and having time to enjoy the simple things in life.

It is not too late to start following our dreams and be brave enough to 'dream big!'

Love every day of the week!

http://www.linkedin.com/today/post/article/20131108190956-36792-do-you-love-both-sunday-and-monday

 I have just read an interesting article. It was about the feelings people have about Monday's in comparison to their Sundays and it got me thinking.
It is a sad fact that many people dread Mondays and this is mainly because they dread the thought of the first day of the working week.
In reality Monday is one of seven days in a week and it is a real shame that it brings about such feelings of dread in so many.
If people really hate 1/7 of their life so much surely they owe it to themselves to figure out a way to do something different on a  Monday to help them to enjoy their day a lot more.
In life we do sometimes have to take risks and risk failure to bring about change.

Recently I took the decision to change my life and learn new skills so that my future will be more secure and enjoyable.

I feel very optimistic about the future since I took the decision to work for myself.
I am enjoying working in schools on a supply basis where the students and staff are appreciative of my efforts and when I get home I have enough energy left to work on my businesses.
I enjoy Mondays now as much as every other day and I am so thankful for the wonderful people who are offering me support and encouragement in my new ventures.

Wednesday 6 November 2013

Irony

It was most amusing driving home in Harold my car today as the Radio One news was reporting on Dizzy Rascall tweeting that Radio One don't play his sings enough due to the language of the lyrics but he claims they are not so picky with artists from the USA.
 Straight after the news they had the '10 minute takeover' and have a guess what was picked first at random?

You guessed it. Dizzy Rascall 'Bonkers!'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ISy0Hl0SBfg

P.S. I must just write a few words in praise of Harold. He may be old but he is so reliable and the best car ever!!!

Tuesday 5 November 2013

Nursing Homes

My daughter showed me an incredible video of a nursing home in USA where the proprietor realised that nursing homes don't have to be depressing they can be joy filled places and he proceeded to bring rescue dogs/cats/rabbits etc to live with the residents in the home he runs. Additionally when a local children's nursery ran out of space they were able to build a separate building on the grounds of the nursing home and the children and seniors spend quality time together. It is a joy to watch the residents and how happy they are. I think this could be the way forward!

http://youtu.be/ZKRMd-r2dN8

Monday 4 November 2013

First World War -Hand written Wills

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/history/world-war-one/10272188/First-World-War-hand-written-wills-give-new-insight-on-our-war-heroes.html
Being an Estate Planner I am naturally interested in any articles about Wills but this one really got me thinking.
In the First World War soldier wrote their last will by hand and hoped that their wishes would be respected.
In reality many of these letters were never seen by their loved ones.
I find it incredibly sad and moving that these soldiers so many miles away from those they loved had their loved ones in their thoughts and at times when they realised their lives were at risk they wrote down their wishes with the intention of ensuring the security of those they loved.

Sunday 3 November 2013

The Pursuit of Happyness

Today's blog is dedicated to this film.
Have you seen it?
If not I thoroughly recommend that you do.
A friend recommended it to me and I ordered it cheaply via Amazon. having watched it I have ordered a second hand copy of the book as it turns out to be based on a true story.
I won't tell you what happens if you don't already know as I wouldn't want to spoil it but let's just say that it serves as a reminder to never give up even when things get unbelievably tough and to always believe in yourself and follow your dreams!

Saturday 2 November 2013

Yesterday was fun!

Yesterday I took Ollie on extra walkies. I then drove to my caravan and spent time there before dropping by to visit my old work colleagues at the homes and then onto meeting Paul and Christabel for coffee. Following this I went to Christabel's for something to eat and while I was there the heavens must have opened as when we went to my car the roads were flooded with water spurting out of the drains!
The weird thing was I was almost completely unaware that it had been raining as it may have been drizzling as we went into the house but we did not hear a heavy downfall while we were in the house.

I am fascinated and impressed by the extremes of weather we have in UK. I know we moan about it but I wouldn't swap it. When the sun comes out after a long period of dullness it is just so wonderful and when it is raining and the sun brakes out for a second and you see a rainbow that is just one of the most miraculous sites you can see!

Friday 1 November 2013

The next day

There is something very peaceful about the day after Halloween. I took Ollie out for a walk and he had a big run in the park chasing all the seagulls and basically that was it- not a lot going on at all. It is a little drizzly today but not too bad and as we walked back to the house I was thinking how quiet everything was. There is some evidence of the parties last night, pumpkin lanterns still in the windows and some houses decorated with broomsticks and plastic bats.
I am off to see some friends this afternoon which is a lovely way to round off the day.
In my previous life I would be up to my neck planning work for the school term ahead. It is going to take some time to adapt to this but I am glad that I have left the stressful aspects of teaching behind.